The Wheel and The Wave

D = friend, cousin, sister, soulmate
E = my 7-year-old daughter

Last weekend, I went to Rhode Island to visit D. It was the first time in over a decade that we had spent time together alone with no distractions. We focused our energy entirely on each other, on deep conversation, revelations, and healing. I needed it.

D has been telling me for the last few months that I need to focus on what I want in my life and be convicted in getting it, that any aspects of my life that don’t align with my main life goals are distractions. But still, I was chasing broken relationships, diving into new projects that didn’t help me with my goals, and I was trying to fix people who didn’t want to change. I was spending time away from E and letting my home become cluttered and negative.

D and I spent 3 days talking about our everyday lives, parenting wins, and fears. She pushed me, with love, to rid myself of all negativity in my life and focus solely on my life goals.

There is no greater gift than the love of a strong woman who is also a mother, sister, soulmate, and friend. I stumbled upon this quote and found so much truth in it. I am blessed to have many strong women in my life who live up to this quote, but having D’s undivided attention for days in a row, at a time in my life when I felt so lost, was the best gift I’ve ever received.


We decided to perform a ritual together. D and I have never practiced “magick” together, though we come from some incredibly strong, spiritual women. The energy was electric. I realized that I could feel her aura, that it was strong and protective, that I could borrow some of her strength and that she was strong enough to take my negative energy from me.

We went to the ocean and each held a coin. We visualized putting any negative thoughts and energy into the coins and took turns affirming what we were letting go of.


Then, we threw our coins into the waves.

After, we planned to eat breakfast. I felt hungry and ready to start a new journey in my life. We stopped in a little shop on our way to the restaurant, and I got a Pura Vida wave ring. D reminded me that it was a symbol of a turning of the tide, a new beginning. I pulled The Wheel tarot card for the day. Another symbol of the tide turning, a shift.

In the last week, so many new paths have opened up to me. More to come about that!

Gretchen PearlComment